Happy Valentines Day (Photo credit: outdoorPDK)
After a few years of hinting, I finally just bluntly told my husband, “Do not get me flowers for Valentines Day.” I just can’t pretend to love them anymore when all I really think is, these are so cliché, so ubiquitous as to be meaningless on this particular day. I hate to sound bitchy, truly. I would just adore surprise flowers any other day of the year and any type–even picked from the curbside. My Dad bought my sister and I flowers every single valentines day growing up and it is such a lovely tradition, that my husband does for our daughter too and so much fun! It is wonderful for mothers,grandmothers,teachers,aunts, …..see where I am going with this?
Even though we had a lengthy conversation about how it is appreciated, but just depressed me to look at them, I think he only heard–wompah,womp,pom,pom (the voice Charlie Brown hears when adults talk).
Charlie Brown (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
This is evidenced by the fact that he did not get me anything at all last year. He recently materialized out of his den to interrupt the conversation between my 17-year-old son and I, where I was advising him NOT to give his girlfriend flowers on February 14th, to say, ” But your mom does not think like the rest of the world.” Paraphrasing, I know he thinks I am crazy.
Instead of filmy,teeny,tiny skimpy little outfits from Victoria’s Secret, something with fur,flannel or a robe since the ladies are always freezing. Cooking utensils of any type are forbidden. That is a gift for the entire family and the same goes with any cleaning device even if it is a top of the line dison model. Gym memberships being gifted on this day seem a passive/aggressive insult. Anything that you could easily just give to your secretary, like chocolates and roses, is a no-no.
I guess I am clearly not normal, but you already know that.
I think you totally ARE normal and that most women feel the same way. Yes, send me flowers on May 2nd or any other random day of the year which would be an obvious way to say “get, I love you and for no reason at all I was thinking of you today”.
Shannon–will you marry me? Can’t wait to dance off all our drinks at the PINK concert with you tomorrow!! Can’t believe we are going!!! I guess I am gifting myself the ticket and it is one of the best valentines presents ever! Try and Try is my new favorite song!
Hahaha, I have never thought someone would actually write about that. ^^ I don’t like receiving flowers on every single Valentine’s Day, too… Well, I guess most men think in patterns..)
good points! They must think in patterns so it really is our duty to spell out in clear expectations. And it would be a great surprise to receive them on Valentines day after a few years of NOT receiving them, so it is not every single time. But I am really complicating it now
I spend my time disagreeing with valentines day. However I ‘noticed’, that whilst in the supermarket last week, with my youngest, I was pointing to all the flowers saying “Hate them, hate them, but love these!” Subtle hints to bring back home, just in case!
flowers from our kids, and anything really from our kids are always treasures
I don’t give flowers, because they die and make my allergies kick up. Chocolates are gone too quick, and then ladies will say “Do I look fat?”. Diamonds are forever, but paychecks are not. Sexy nighties are useless, since they are only worn for about 3 seconds anyway.
A nicely cooked dinner, prepared bubble bath and a Austin Powers themed “Sensual Massage” do the trick though!
When did you change the blog theme? I hope it wasn’t too long ago, because I just noticed…..
Your wife is in for a fabulous Valentines Day! If I make wings and nachos can you have a little chit-chat with my hubby over a Steeler game ? haha I really liked the old pic of the girl in cargo pants but the green seemed hard to read, so changed it . I have had a case of the blogging blahs and not done too much lately.
I agree. And flowers like to commit suicide as soon as they’re in my possession.
That’s why I like etsy.com–all sorts of unique, handmade, customizable gift on there. It’s easy to find something cute and sweet for someone (or yourself)!
I love etsy too! My girlfriend ordered us all Vera-bradley style change purses with our names stiched on for favors from her birthday party and it is so pretty!! Yes–she gave us presents on her birthday! that is so sweet I have to do that on mine
I am bad with the flowers too! even the little chemical packet to sprinkle in the water never works.
I totally agree with you –
happy valentines day to you!
and to you too! but no roses
Thank you so much for writing this, Boho! I was searching for articles about this after feeling guilty for getting upset at my husband this morning, upon discovering he bought me a dozen drugstore red roses, stuffed bear and hallmark card for V-day. You hit the mark with saying they’re “depressing to look at”–they remind me of those poor factory-farmed chickens LOL! I was a florist for years, so my love affair with rustic, unique flowers strays greatly from the cliche red rose. Yet despite my protests, every holiday/occasion, hubby presents them proudly. And I wind up playing the role of “ungrateful-wife-who-should-be-happy-someone-loves-her-enough-to-get-her-anything”.
Well, no longer! I specifically asked him last night for simple, affordable white carnations; fragrant, fluffy with adorably snappy stems. Instead of playing coy and humble, I asserted my myself so there was no chance for confusion this time. But alas, the red roses returned…and I promptly sent them, with him, to his grandmother’s house. SHE was overjoyed! Hopefully, next occasion, us “weirdos” will get the handpicked bouquets from the curb that we crave!
PS your son is very lucky for your thoughtful, sage advice!
Thank you for the fabulous comment! So glad your grandmother enjoyed the flowers and fingers crossed your hubby had some beautiful carnations for you. Men are strange ducks — even when we spell it out clearly, they want us to feel the way they think we should feel. This still very confusing to my hubby too– but we did have a lovely dinner